As of today, both of my parents have been gone for ten years.
It’s a number that’s impossible to fathom.
Impossible because it has been so long.
Because it has passed so quickly.
Because my life has been through so many evolutions in their absence.
There are so many parts of me they’ll never get to see.
The thing no one tells you about grief is that you don’t just lose someone once.
You lose them a thousand times.
When you return to a place they loved.
Or travel to a country they’d always wanted to visit.
When you’re in trouble and they can’t help you.
When you have good news and can’t tell them.
When they visit you in your dreams and it feels so real, until you wake up and grasp at the memory, trying to hold onto moments before they vanish.
After ten years I don’t suppose I’ll ever stop missing my parents, or wishing they were here.
But here’s the thing about time: it has a way of softening edges that once were jagged.
It is forgiving.
It can even, occasionally (if you’re willing to let it), wrap you in grace.
And so, after ten years, here is what I know:
I am lucky.
Lucky that they were here.
Lucky to have been loved.
Lucky that while they were alive
They gave me everything that I needed
To make it through the rest of this life